When I was little, I used my imagination ALL the time. My friends and I were ALWAYS pretending we were this or that…always dreaming. I remember all of the Disney movies and songs that tell us “Dreams really do come true!” What ever happened to that??
As children, we have BIG dreams; and as we get older, they seem to fade away. I think sometimes it’s because other people start telling us it’s time to grow up and become step into “the real world.” We see so many others who have given up on their dreams, and that is discouraging to us. Little by little we stop believing and eventually they just “go away.” People make dreaming seem childish, immature, and unrealistic….and as we get older we’re almost embarrassed to share our dreams with other people. We start to accept ‘normal’ and our new reality, which may not be anything close to what we dreamed of as kids.
I can’t tell you how many adults told me when I was a kid and while in high school and college to “Enjoy this while it lasts- these are the best years of your life- just wait till you get to the real world!” How incredibly discouraging! Don’t get me wrong…I absolutely LOVED my childhood. I LOVED high school. And I LOVED college. But you know what?? I feel like my life keeps getting better! I LOVED being a newlywed, and now I am beyond excited to start a family and enter into parenthood! I think it’s super important to be IN THE MOMENT and enjoy each phase of life….they all pass so quickly, and they all have something special and unique to offer. People are either rushing us into the next phase or telling us the best years of our life have already passed. We just need to stop listening to that junk.
So here’s what I think.
I think we need to start dreaming again!!!
Why not go for what others think is “unrealistic?” I’m okay with not being a part of reality….Because here’s what I know about reality.
Reality is that 86% of people HATE what they do and are miserable with their jobs. Reality is that MOST people don’t get paid what they’re worth and aren’t fulfilled or doing something they’re passionate about. Reality is that 60% of all marriages will end in divorce, and the #1 reason for divorce is financial struggles.
I’m certain that none of us dreamed these things for our lives when we were little. Imagine if we’d gone after what we REALLY wanted out of life instead of settling for what we think is ‘normal’ and ‘realistic.’ We just accept that and think everyone else is afforded better opportunities…have better luck…etc.
I know for us, we were taught that you work your TAIL off, get another degree, add another job, etc. Six months ago, we were working 3 jobs each so we could save up enough money for me to be able to stop teaching when we were blessed with children. That was/is our dream. So that’s what we did. Jonathan is in construction, and I am a teacher. We both worked normal full time schedules, and he was always doing side jobs after work and on weekends, and selling wheels and tires to make extra money. I earned my Specialist’s degree because that’s what everyone told me to do, and after teaching all day, I would do pitching lessons/clinics after school, teach camps in the summer, and do some small photography on the side. We were extremely tight (other than our vacations….that’s our splurge….work hard, rest hard!) and saved every penny possible. But we had NO TIME.
Thankfully, the Lord put Advocare in our paths….and we have started dreaming again. We have been blessed to be able to eliminate 4 of our 6 jobs, which means we actually have time to spend together. After this school year, 5 of the 6 of them will be gone, and we’ll have accomplished our dream of me staying at home to raise our sweet babies. We still believe in hard work, but now we are able to get paid what we’re worth, doing something we LOVE and are passionate about- changing others’ lives through improving their health and finances. Not only is it extremely fulfilling, but it is also something we get to do together and have a BLAST doing!!!
We have had a few haters, people trying to shoot us down, tell us it won’t last, etc. But there is NO WAY we will listen to them after what we’ve already seen it do for our family.
I know I’m specifically talking about careers and finances here, but I have another example. One of my girlfriends just ran her 2nd FULL marathon! Woo hoo- do it girl! That is awesome and a feat in itself. Somebody had the audacity to tell her that it wasn’t even worth trying to qualify for Boston because it wouldn’t happen….it’s too hard. REALLLY? Who in the heck is HE to tell her what she can and cannot accomplish? Other people do NOT control our dreams or their outcomes, so if we let what others say deter us, that is nobody’s fault but our own. And Kara, if you’re reading this girl, you BETTER GO FOR IT!!!!! You can ABSOLUTELY do it.
(Okay, maybe not the GREATEST pleasure, but it sure does feel good!)
Whatever it is you want out of life, GO FOR IT!!!!! It’s not too late. As long as you can be tough enough not to let other people get in your way, you really can accomplish whatever you set your mind to.