Honestly, I SO wish women could start supporting one another instead of tearing each other down. We are called to LOVE, encourage, and build one another up, but we seem to do just the opposite. What if we could all just quit judging, gossiping, and start appreciating others for who they are and for each person’s journey??
Everyone has different passions and priorities. I don’t think it’s a secret if you read my blog that some of the most important things in MY life are my walk with the Lord, my family, and health and fitness.
So, here’s what brought this whole thing up. You would be shocked (or maybe you wouldn’t) at the ridicule and snyde comments people make about the fact that I choose to be healthy. (Although I do feel like since I’ve been this way for so long, some people are used to it and starting to accept that this is how I am and how I’ll always be because it’s something I believe in. Progress, maybe?)
Anyway, here’s one of the things people have been saying to me lately…. “I can’t wait to see if you still look like that after kids!” My friend was up this weekend and we were talking about that comment because she can totally relate. She is an incredible mom and people say similar tings about her wondering if her second child will turn out as good as her first- or if he was just “luck.”
Really?!?!?! I think that is so unbelievably, ridiculously RUDE and immature.
I used to be easily offended, but as I have become more secure I don’t struggle with that as much anymore. However, that offended me BIG time!! And honestly, it hurt my feelings.
I try to be 100% supportive and encouraging of others, no matter what their priorities are and even if they’re different from mine. It made my heart sad a little that I feel like so many women want to see others fail. (Because I can’t really take that any other way- it’s not out of pure curiosity, let’s get real.) THAT is exactly why it’s so important to be aware of who you surround yourself with. And ignore the haters. (And now that I’ve vented about that, I’ll be ‘over’ it. Whew, thank goodness for the blog!)
I can tell you this.
I know LOTS of fit moms, and I WILL be one of them. Just like my friend & I discussed after she told me that, everyone has different priorities. If it means that I have to go to our basement gym after my babies go to bed….run on the treadmill during their naps….or wake up at the crack of dawn to sneak in a workout (for HEALTH and SANITY reasons, mind you….not vanity), I will do it. I just know how I am. I’m extremely dedicated and driven, and this is a priority for me.
Will I look like I do right now? I don’t know. Maybe not. I know having babies totally changes your body (and hair, skin, tummy, etc. from what I hear). And ya know what? That’s fine with me!! Like I’ve said a million and one times (and I know you’re tired of hearing it, but I feel like I need so keep saying it because some people aren’t getting it!), I don’t work out for vanity reasons. If I don’t look like this after kids, that’s 100% okay. I will have some sweet little blessings that will be totally worth every stretch mark and skin spot. BUT, I will still be fit and in shape, even if I don’t “look” the same. I think it’s pretty inappropriate when I hear women say things like “Just wait….kids ruin your bodies.”
Anyway, I know that is probably not nearly as big of a deal as it seems like I’m making it out to be. But it this goes MUCH deeper and way beyond this one little thing. It seems like the second you get a group of females together, they want to start gossiping and bashing every other woman who is not there. It’s sad, really, that we can’t find more thoughtful, positive things to talk about.
In life in general, I think we need to be very cautious about our words and focus more on building others up.
Seriously ladies, start supporting each other. We need to stick together!!!
Just a little Food for Thought this Friday…